When Mother’s Day Hurts: Finding Comfort in the Word
Mother’s Day can feel like a bright spotlight on our pain. 

For some, it’s the ache of empty arms after miscarriage or infertility. 

For others, it’s the sting of estrangement from children or a mom, or the hollow space left behind by a mom who has passed. 

And for still others, it's the unbearable grief of losing a child. 

If that’s you, sweet sister, I want you to know: God sees you. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and His Word is a balm for the soul.

I’ve had seasons where Mother’s Day brought tears instead of joy. And if I’m honest, I'm in one of those seasons now. 

It carries some guilt, because do I have a wonderful mom and beautiful children to celebrate, but there are other pains in my motherhood journey that often leave me feeling like the wind has been knocked out of me. 

Sometimes I feel like I don't belong in these celebrations—like I'm on the outside looking in. 

But Scripture reminds us that our identity is never defined by a role or a title. 

Womanhood is not defined by whether or not we have children, and whether the relationships we have are thriving or broken. 

Our worth is not determined by what we’ve lost or longed for. It’s rooted in Christ alone. 

Psalm 139:13-14 reminds us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made—knit together by a Creator who never makes mistakes.

In those hard moments, turn to the Psalms. 

David didn’t hold back in his grief. He wept, he questioned, he lamented—and God met him there. 

Psalm 13 begins with, “How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?” but it ends with, “I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully with me.” That’s the tension we live in—honest pain, yet anchored hope.

If Mother’s Day hurts this year, let yourself grieve. Sit with the Lord and let His Word comfort you. 

Isaiah 66:13 says, 
“As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you.” 
What a precious promise. You are seen, loved, and not alone.

Here are a few verses to cling to this week:
  • Psalm 56:8 – “You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle.”
  • Lamentations 3:22-23 – “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end.”
  • Romans 8:18 – “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.”
And here's an action step for you to try: grab a pen and paper, and write out your own Psalm to the Lord. Cry out to Him your deepest anguish, give him the full force of your grief, and let His comfort wash over you. 

Let your heart rest in His goodness—even when it aches.

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