One of the most sacred and silent fears I hear from women is:
“What if my husband never becomes the spiritual leader I pray for?”
That ache runs deep.
It’s often whispered through tears, tucked inside prayer journals, or carried silently in conversations with God.
You long to see your husband flourish in Christ.
You dream of him leading your family with wisdom and strength.
And when it doesn’t happen… it’s easy to drift toward control, resentment, or quiet despair.
But sweet friend — Scripture speaks straight into this place.
🕊 A Word From the Word
1 Peter 3:1–2 (ESV) says:
“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word,
they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives —
when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
This isn’t a call to silence.
The Greek meaning of "without a word" here means THE Word. It means don't preach Scripture at your husband when he's already not inclined to obey it.
It does not mean to ignore or enable sin. It doesn't mean to hide your concerns, fears, or wisdom.
What it does mean is to use strength in surrender.
It’s not about pretending or performing — it’s about trusting that God is at work, even when you can’t see it.
🙏 Truth You Need to Know
Here’s what I remind women often — and I want you to hear it too:
- Your husband’s sanctification is not your responsibility.
But your response is. - Your role is not to lead him spiritually.
Your role is to honor God faithfully — and let the aroma of Christ be what shapes your home. - You’re not powerless in this.
But your power comes from prayer, not pressure.
Let’s pause here for a moment of reflection. Ask yourself:
- Have I confused spiritual leadership with spiritual performance?
- Am I trying to change him in my timing — instead of trusting God’s?
- Where am I withholding respect because I’m waiting for results?
- IMPORTANT NOTE: As a wife, you are called to respect your husband unconditionally - just as your husband is called to love you unconditionally. Withholding respect until he "earns" it is directly disobeying God's instructions. (Ephesians 5:33)
❤️ What Obedience Looks Like
Here are three areas the Lord may be inviting you to walk in faith:
1. Respect without manipulation.
Are your words building him up — or are you tearing him down quietly in your heart?
“She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” — Proverbs 31:12
2. Prayer without condition.
Are you praying for him every day — or only when you’re upset or disappointed?
“Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.” — Colossians 4:2
3. Trust without striving.
Are you trying to be the Holy Spirit — or letting God be God?
“The Lord takes pleasure in those who fear him, in those who hope in his steadfast love.” — Psalm 147:11
✍️ A Gentle Action Step
Let’s take the pressure off and anchor ourselves in prayer.
Today, write down three prayers for your husband.
Not things to fix. Not character traits to force.
But areas where you’re asking God to move.
Then ask yourself:
- What would it look like to trust God with no deadline?
- Can I worship while I wait?
- Can I choose peace even when the story doesn’t look how I hoped?
✨ A Loving Warning: Don’t Wait to Rejoice
There’s one more thing I need to say — gently, but clearly. I learned this the hard way, and I want to spare you some pain.
If your joy is on hold until your husband leads…
If your peace depends on your picture-perfect marriage…
If your heart aches more over his stagnancy than it delights in Christ’s sufficiency…
If your peace depends on your picture-perfect marriage…
If your heart aches more over his stagnancy than it delights in Christ’s sufficiency…
Then it may be time to ask:
Have I made my husband, or my dream of biblical marriage, an idol?
We don’t usually call it that.
It can look like longing. Grief. Disappointment.
But if you believe you can’t be whole, fulfilled, or deeply joyful without him leading spiritually the way you believe he should…
Then you're saying Jesus isn’t enough.
“Whom have I in heaven but you?
And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.
My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” — Psalm 73:25–26
Marriage is good.
A spiritually mature husband is beautiful.
But he was never meant to be your Savior. And it's unfair to put that expectation on him.
Your fulfillment, purpose, and security were never designed to rest on the shoulders of a man — even a godly one.
That weight belongs only to Christ.
And the good news?
He can carry it.
So let your first love be Jesus.
Let your joy come not from what could be — but from what already is.
Let your worship rise even if your circumstances don’t.
You are known.
You are loved.
You are held.
You are loved.
You are held.
Right here. Right now.
🕯 Final Word
Sweet friend, your hope is not in your husband’s growth.
It’s in the unshakable, all-knowing, always-moving heart of God.
He sees.
He hears.
He’s not slow to act — He’s working in ways you may never fully understand this side of heaven.
He hears.
He’s not slow to act — He’s working in ways you may never fully understand this side of heaven.
“He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:24
So keep planting seeds of faith.
Keep showing up with quiet strength.
And remember: You don’t need a perfect marriage to live a faithful life.
Jesus is enough. And He is with you.
For the wife who wants to walk by faith, even when she doesn’t feel brave.
Fear doesn’t always show up loud.
Sometimes, it comes quietly.
A flicker of doubt in your chest.
A worry you can’t name but still feel.
A lingering thought at bedtime that keeps your eyes open longer than you want.
A worry you can’t name but still feel.
A lingering thought at bedtime that keeps your eyes open longer than you want.
As Christian wives and mothers, you and I know in our heads that God is sovereign.
We can quote the verses (even if we can’t always remember exactly where they are).
We can teach them to our kids.
And yet, our hearts can still feel shaky—especially when we look at our marriages, our children, or the uncertain future ahead.
Maybe you’ve had thoughts like:
- “I’m afraid my husband will never lead spiritually.”
- “What if I’m not doing enough for our kids?”
- “What if I’m failing quietly and no one sees it?”
These are the kinds of fears that don’t usually get posted online. But they’re real. And left unspoken, they grow in the dark.
“But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible.”
— Ephesians 5:13, ESV
The way forward isn’t pretending you're not afraid. It’s learning how to bring fear into the light of God’s Word—and letting truth speak louder.
When fear rises, try this:
1. Name the fear honestly.
Fear feeds on vagueness. Clarity is the first step to freedom.
Ask yourself:
- What is the fear beneath the surface?
- What outcome am I trying to control?
- What do I believe might happen if I let go?
Bring it into the light—not with shame, but with intention.
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.”
— Psalm 56:3, ESV
God isn’t asking you to pretend. He’s inviting you to trust Him, right in the middle of your fear.
2. Identify the lie underneath.
Fear is rarely just about circumstances—it’s about belief.
Ask:
- What lie is this fear trying to make me believe?
- Does this align with who God is—or who I’ve made myself responsible to be?
Here are some common ones (that are often rooted in pride):
- “If I don’t hold everything together, no one will.”
- “I’m the only one who can fix this.”
- “God is good—but maybe not in this situation.”
These aren’t just thoughts—they’re accusations against the character of God. And they must be held up to the light of Scripture.
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
— John 8:32, ESV
3. Replace the lie with Scripture—specifically.
It’s not enough to say “God is good.” You need to meet your exact fear with His exact Word.
Try these:
If you fear your husband isn't leading spiritually →
“The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord; he turns it wherever he will.”
— Proverbs 21:1, ESV
If you fear the future →
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God.”
— Isaiah 41:10, ESV
If you fear your own limitations →
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
— 2 Corinthians 12:9, ESV
Choose one verse. Write it down. Say it aloud. Preach it to your heart when fear whispers otherwise.
4. Pray like a daughter—not a hero.
You’re not expected to feel brave all the time. But you are invited to come boldly.
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”
— 2 Timothy 1:7, ESV
You don’t need to wait until your emotions catch up. Just come as you are and ask Him:
- Help me trust what You say over what I feel.
- Give me discernment to reject lies and cling to truth.
- Give me grace to be faithful—not perfect.
Reflect on this:
- What fear have you been carrying quietly?
- What lie has it been reinforcing?
- What verse speaks directly to that fear?
- What step of obedience would reflect your trust in God—even if the fear hasn’t fully lifted?
Remember - filling your heart and mind with Scripture daily through intentional Bible study will help you to combat fears. The more you study truth, the more you meditate on the truth of Who God is, the less susceptible you are to the lies of the world - or of your own mind.
God doesn’t promise we’ll never feel afraid.
He promises that His presence is greater. His Word is stronger. His Spirit is in us.
And that’s enough to take one more step today—with steadiness, not striving.
🖊️ Want to go deeper?
Write out one fear that’s been sitting quietly in your heart. Then write one verse that tells the truth about it (DM or email me if you need some guidance finding one!). Speak that truth every time the fear resurfaces this week.
You don’t need more self-confidence.
You need more Scripture in the silence.
And He has not left you alone.
You don’t have to feel fearless to be faithful. Just keep walking with the One who holds every moment in His hands.
Let’s be honest…
Home doesn’t always feel like the peaceful haven we imagined when we first got married, or when our first baby was born.
Some days it’s loud. Messy. Heavy.
You’re trying to get dinner on the table while someone’s yelling about socks (or poop if you're a boy mom), and suddenly the idea of a “Christ-centered home” feels more like a distant dream than something you can actually live out..
But here’s what I want you to know:
Jesus doesn’t wait for quiet to enter. He comes right into the noise.
And when you start to intentionally invite Him in, even in small ways—
The atmosphere shifts.
The atmosphere shifts.
So what does a Christ-centered atmosphere actually look like?
It’s not about fresh flowers on the table and a diffuser going (though those things are lovely - we do have a diffuser running every day but my cat eats fresh flowers).
It’s not even about perfect obedience or chore charts with Scripture verses.
At its core, a Christ-centered home is one where:
- God’s Word is known and spoken—regularly, not perfectly
- Prayer is part of real, everyday life, not just a bedtime routine
- Grace is given… and often given again
- Repentance is modeled, not hidden
- Love leads the room—even when emotions are high
Paul said it this way:
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.”
— Colossians 3:15–16
And I love that he didn’t say when the kids are cooperating or once everyone’s emotionally regulated.
He just said: let Him rule. Let Him dwell.
5 Ways to Shift the Atmosphere—Without Overhauling Your Life
You don’t need a full schedule overhaul or a family-wide transformation plan.
Small shifts, repeated over time, will do more than one big “spiritual reset” ever could.
Here are five places you could start today:
1. Play worship in the background
When you fill your heart with the truths of God's word, with praise of Him, worship of Him, and gratitude for Him, your heart softens.
And when your heart softens, so does the tone of the whole house.
It doesn’t have to be loud. Just let truth start filling the quiet moments again.
Often, I will pull up a YouTube live stream channel that just has instrumental hymns playing, and I leave it on throughout the day.
2. Put Scripture where you’ll see it
A sticky note on the bathroom mirror. A verse on the fridge.
Or my personal favorite, wall art from Hobby Lobby. 😊
One mom told me her daughter now puts up her own verses after watching her do it.
That’s the fruit of consistency, not perfection.
3. Pray out loud in real-time
It doesn’t have to be deep or long.
It doesn't have to be eloquent or worded perfectly.
Just—“Jesus, help us have peace right now.” Or “Lord, thank You for this moment.” Or "Father, protect the people that ambulance/fire truck is going to help."
These small moments teach your kids Who you run to.
4. Model repentance
One of the most powerful things I’ve ever done as a mom is look my child in the eye and say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry.”
Repentance doesn’t weaken your authority—it strengthens their respect.
5. Speak life on purpose
When tension rises, speak God’s Word out loud into that room.
Even if it’s just you whispering it under your breath while folding towels.
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue…”
— Proverbs 18:21
You’re setting the spiritual temperature, whether you mean to or not.
A Few Questions to Gently Consider
Not to bring shame, but rather clarity.
- What’s being talked about the most in our home?
- What’s playing in the background: news, music, noise, silence?
- What would someone feel if they walked through our front door?
You don’t need a perfect answer. Just an honest one.
Because when Christ is centered, peace begins to grow—even if it’s slow.
Verses to Carry Into the Chaos
🕊 Romans 12:18
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
🕊 Philippians 4:7
“And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
“And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
🕊 Proverbs 24:3–4
“By wisdom a house is built… by knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
“By wisdom a house is built… by knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
Last Thought, Sweet Friend
You’re not failing if your house feels tense right now. Let's be real...sometimes you do all you can and the tension remains.
You’re not behind spiritually.
And you don’t need to “try harder” to make your home holy.
You just need to keep building—with Jesus at the center.
One verse. One prayer. One act of humility at a time.
Start small. Start again if you need to.
Let Christ fill the chaos.
That’s where peace begins.
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The other morning, my 4-year-old and I were reading from his Early Reader’s Bible.
(Actually, he was reading, I was listening.)
We got to the question: “How can you show love to God?”
Without missing a beat, he said,
“Um...sing songs to Him. And read this book!”
“Um...sing songs to Him. And read this book!”
This book—the Bible he had just been reading to me.
His answer stopped me. Not just because it was insightful (which it was!), but because it reminded me that our simple morning rhythm—Bible and breakfast—is already shaping how he sees God.
And that’s what traditions do.
🟣 Family traditions will shape our kids — the question is, how?
Let’s be real: not all traditions are intentional.
Some we inherited without thinking. Others just sort of… happened.
But whether we choose them or not, traditions teach our kids what matters to us.
They teach:
→ What we prioritize
→ What we make time for
→ What we keep coming back to — even when life is busy
→ What we prioritize
→ What we make time for
→ What we keep coming back to — even when life is busy
When we slow down and ask, “What are we actually passing on here?” — something shifts.
🟣 A biblically rooted tradition is more than a memory
In the Old Testament, God didn’t just suggest feasts and festivals as something fun to do.
He commanded them as a way to remember.
“You shall remember that you were a slave in Egypt. And you shall be careful to observe these statutes.”
— Deuteronomy 16:12 (ESV)
In other words, God knew we needed regular rhythms to help us remember what He’s done.
Traditions that are truly biblical don’t just feel good or look spiritual — they anchor us in truth.
🟣 Ideas for Traditions That Keep the Word at the Center
Here are a few simple rhythms that can help your family build habits of remembrance:
1. “Verse of the Month” at the Dinner Table
Pick one Scripture to memorize and talk about all month.
Let it shape your dinner convos, quiz each other, and reflect on how you see it in real life.
Let it shape your dinner convos, quiz each other, and reflect on how you see it in real life.
2. Speak a Blessing on Birthdays
More than cake and gifts—make birthdays a moment of spoken truth.
Pray over each child or spouse. Speak a Scripture aloud. Write it in a card they can keep.
Pray over each child or spouse. Speak a Scripture aloud. Write it in a card they can keep.
3. “Scripture Sunday” Reset
One mom shared that every Sunday after lunch, her family reads a Psalm together.
It’s short, simple, and has become their weekly “spiritual reset.”
It’s short, simple, and has become their weekly “spiritual reset.”
4. Holiday Anchors
Instead of just decor or gifts, use holidays as built-in discipleship moments:
- Easter → Read the resurrection account
- Thanksgiving → Share a verse of gratitude
- Christmas → Trace Jesus’ lineage and fulfilled prophecies
5. Sabbath Start or Sunday Slowdown
Light a candle. Read one verse. Pause before the week begins.
Let your kids see you set the tone with God’s Word—even if it’s only 5 minutes.
None of this needs to be big or complicated.
They just need to be repeatable — and rooted in truth.
🟣 You’re not just creating memories. You’re planting anchors.
Even if it seems like your kids aren’t paying attention...
Even if they groan or wiggle or seem “over it”...
These rhythms are doing deep, quiet work.
You’re showing them that:
→ God’s Word matters
→ His truth belongs in our everyday life
→ He’s worth remembering
→ God’s Word matters
→ His truth belongs in our everyday life
→ He’s worth remembering
And one day, when life gets shaky, they’ll know where to turn.
🟣 Scripture to Build Traditions On
These are beautiful reminders of why this matters:
Psalm 145:4
“One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”
Proverbs 22:6
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Psalm 78:6–7
“…that the next generation might know them… so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God…”
🟣 Final Thought: Traditions don’t need to be perfect. Just intentional.
You don’t need to do what another family does.
You don’t need a binder or a Bible curriculum or a perfect Sunday rhythm.
But you do need to ask:
What are we already doing — and how can we invite Scripture into it?
That’s where legacy starts.
That’s how we build a home our kids want to come back to—because it’s rooted in truth.
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Let’s plant seeds that will grow fruit for generations.
If you've ever felt guilty for not doing a full-blown family devotional every day... take the pressure off, sweet friend.
You don’t need an hour-long study or a Influencer's routine to bring the Word into your home. You just need intention.
Scripture is meant to be part of your everyday — not just your Sunday. It should be a natural outpouring of your own time with the Lord.
Let’s talk about how to make that happen, especially with little ones around.
🟣 God’s Word Is for Real Life — Not Just Quiet Time
Deuteronomy 6 gives us a picture of how Scripture is meant to shape daily life:
“You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
— Deuteronomy 6:7 (ESV)
In other words... when you're eating breakfast, driving to practice, wiping counters, tucking kids in — THAT’S the space where Scripture belongs.
It doesn’t need to be formal. It needs to be present.
And here's a hint - if you only read devotionals, or a single "verse-of-the-day", it won't naturally occur to you to talk about God's Word at all those times.
You have to fill yourself with Scripture first before you can pour it out to your family and others.
🟣 6 Simple Ways to Bring Scripture Into Your Daily Routines
If you're like me and you love actionable, structured ideas, here are some you can try this week — no prep, no curriculum required.
1. Verse of the Week on the Fridge or Bathroom Mirror
Pick one short verse that your family can see often. Use dry-erase marker, Post-It notes, or a chalkboard. The key is visibility = familiarity.
Pick one short verse that your family can see often. Use dry-erase marker, Post-It notes, or a chalkboard. The key is visibility = familiarity.
➡️ Try Philippians 2:14 — “Do all things without grumbling or disputing.”
(Actually...this is a fun one to help them memorize, because we'd all love a little less whining, right? 😉)
2. Speak Scripture While You Correct or Redirect
Instead of just saying “be nice,” try saying:
“God’s Word says to be kind to one another” (Ephesians 4:32).
Instead of just saying “be nice,” try saying:
“God’s Word says to be kind to one another” (Ephesians 4:32).
You’re not using the Bible as a hammer — you’re simply anchoring your correction in truth.
3. Play Scripture Songs During Chores or Playtime
Music helps truth stick. A mom once told me her toddlers could quote more Scripture from worship music than anything else. And yes — it counts.
Music helps truth stick. A mom once told me her toddlers could quote more Scripture from worship music than anything else. And yes — it counts.
➡️ Check out Seeds Family Worship or Slugs & Bugs for sound theology in song.
4. Tie Verses to Routines
- Brushing teeth? Recite Proverbs 15:1.
- Before meals? Read a Psalm of thanksgiving.
- At bedtime? Whisper Psalm 4:8 or Psalm 23:1-2.
The goal isn’t performance. It’s presence.
5. Ask Simple, Curious Questions
- “What do you think God means when He says ‘love one another’?”
- “Why do you think Jesus told that story?”
These moments spark conversations that plant seeds of faith.
6. Read the Bible Out Loud While They Play
Even if they’re playing with LEGOs or dolls, read anyway.
Even if they’re playing with LEGOs or dolls, read anyway.
Isaiah 55:11 reminds us:
“So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty…” (ESV)
Don’t wait for perfect stillness. Just read.
Alternatively, you could also put on an app that reads the Bible out loud (I'm one of those people that doesn't particularly enjoying reading aloud, so I understand if you don't either!).
🟣 A Gentle Word for Moms Who Feel Insecure
You don’t need to be a Bible expert. You don’t need seminary-level answers. And you’re not failing if your kids roll their eyes or get wiggly during prayer.
Your consistency matters more than your polish.
Your tone matters more than your volume.
Your willingness to look for answers (rather than pretending to know everything) teaches your children how to be better and more humble students.
And your love for God’s Word? It speaks louder than a thousand rules or reminders.
🟣 Scriptures to Hold Onto as You Lead Faithfully
Here are a few Scriptures that remind us why we do this — even when no one seems to notice:
- Isaiah 40:11
“He will tend his flock like a shepherd… he will gently lead those that are with young.”
God is gentle with mothers. You can be gentle with yourself, too.
- Psalm 78:4
“We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord…”
- 2 Timothy 3:15
“…and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation…”
These verses are your reminder: you’re sowing eternity into your child’s everyday life.
🟣 Final Thought:
God’s Word doesn’t need to compete with your daily routines. It was meant to live inside them.
So whether your kids are toddlers, teens, or somewhere in between—start now. Say the verse. Play the music. Ask the question. Let your home be filled with truth that sticks long after your kids leave the house.
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