If you’ve ever questioned whether your time in the Word really matters when no one else sees it, let me gently remind you: it matters more than you think.
Your time in Scripture isn’t just for you. It sets the tone of your home.
In a world that wants to distract, discourage, and disorient your marriage, your kids (everything, really), it's important that you're intentional about making your home a place of clarity, peace, and truth.
That starts with your own personal time in the Word, sweet friend. Not perfect study. Not obligatory study. But faithful study
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🟣 Why Your Study Time Has a Ripple Effect
Even if no one else sees your early-morning Bible open on the kitchen table or your quiet prayer whispered between dishes, God sees it.
And whether you realize it or not, your family feels it.
When your heart is aligned with God’s truth, it changes how you respond when your child melts down. How you engage in conflict with your spouse. How you prioritize time, energy, and boundaries.
This isn’t about you being the spiritual leader of your house. We know that role is reserved for your husband.
This is about being anchored, so your home doesn’t drift with every mood, trend, or headline.
Scripture says,
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105 (ESV)
Jesus also reminds us in Matthew 5:14a,
"You are the light of the world."
You can’t be the light for your family if your own lamp is empty. Let Him fill you first.
🟣 How To Start (Even If You Feel Spiritually Stuck)
You don’t need an elaborate system to start studying Scripture with impact. Here’s a simple framework that works even in full, noisy seasons:
1. Pick a place.
Even five minutes of reading in the same chair, corner, or nook can become sacred ground. Consistency builds clarity.
Even five minutes of reading in the same chair, corner, or nook can become sacred ground. Consistency builds clarity.
2. Choose one small section of Scripture.
Start with a short passage (1–2 paragraphs). Example: Colossians 3:12–17 is rich with wisdom for the home. (Caution: read more than just a verse - surrounding context is important.)
Start with a short passage (1–2 paragraphs). Example: Colossians 3:12–17 is rich with wisdom for the home. (Caution: read more than just a verse - surrounding context is important.)
3. Ask 3 questions as you read:
- What does this show me about God?
- What does this expose in me?
- How can I obey God in my home and marriage today?
4. Speak it out loud.
Even if it’s just one verse, let your ears hear truth. Romans 10:17 says,
Even if it’s just one verse, let your ears hear truth. Romans 10:17 says,
“So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” (ESV)
5. Invite your kids into it — not by preaching at them, but by letting them see you prioritize it.
I once heard about a mom who started leaving her Bible open on the kitchen counter, just as a reminder to herself — and her kids began asking questions about the verses they saw. Tiny seeds.
🟣 Scriptures to Ground You in This
Here are a few verses to guide and encourage your heart as you begin or deepen your personal study:
- Deuteronomy 6:6–7
“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children…”
- Isaiah 26:3
“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.”
- Psalm 1:2–3
“But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night… In all that he does, he prospers.”
🟣 Final Thought:
If you’ve been waiting for the perfect morning routine, the quiet house, or the ideal devotional plan to begin... take the pressure off. (And the procrastination, let's be real.)
God honors your effort, not your aesthetics.
Your study shapes your responses. Your tone. Your discernment. Your legacy.
Start NOW.
Start small, stay consistent, and let the fruit show up in the unseen — the way you hold space, speak peace, and walk in wisdom.
If you haven't already grabbed this month's free download, be sure to check out 30 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Home. Grab it here!
Imagine this: we’re sitting across from each other, coffee in hand, chatting about life and marriage.
You tell me you want a stronger, more joyful connection with your husband, but you’re not sure where to start.
I get it—it can feel overwhelming.
Even if you have a wonderful marriage, the idea of working towards improvement can feel daunting. (Actually, if you have a wonderful marriage, it may feel even more daunting!)
But here’s the good news: transformation doesn’t have to be complicated. It starts with small, intentional steps - rooted in God’s Word.
5 Practices To Start Today
First, let’s talk about gratitude. Each morning, jot down one thing you appreciate about your husband. It could be something as simple as how he goes to work every day to provide for your family, or how he always takes out the trash without being asked. Maybe it's his ability to make you laugh, or how dedicated he is to his children. Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s lacking to what’s good, and it sets the tone for a day filled with grace.
Next, carve out five minutes to pray specifically for your marriage. Ask God for wisdom, patience, and a heart that’s open to change. Look up passages about marriage, and pray those things over your own. When you anchor your prayers in Scripture, you’re not just talking to God—you’re inviting His truth to transform you from the inside out.
Another game-changer? Active listening. When your husband speaks, resist the urge to interrupt or plan your response. Just listen. This simple act builds trust and connection, showing him that his words—and his heart—matter to you.
And when frustrations arise (because let’s be real, they will), pause and choose grace over grumbling. Ask yourself, “How can I respond with kindness instead of criticism?” It’s not always easy, but staying rooted in God’s Word equips you to respond in ways that reflect His love. Don't expect to respond with love if you aren't being filled with God's love daily through studying His Word.
Finally, create moments of connection. Plan one intentional act of kindness each week—whether it’s leaving a note of encouragement, cooking his favorite meal, grabbing a snack he loves while you're grocery shopping, or planning a date night (even if he never does - maybe it's your gift to give). These small gestures speak volumes and remind both of you why you chose each other.
Here’s the thing: when you stay rooted in Scripture, these steps don’t feel like a chore. They become a joy. They become part of who you are—a wife transformed by God’s truth.
Ready to take the next step? Getting into a daily rhythm of reading and actively studying God's Word is how you will experience this transformation.
Download the free 4-week Marriage Scripture Journal and start your journey today. It’s packed with guided readings and prompts to help you anchor your heart in God’s Word and see transformation first in your heart, and then in your marriage.
Let’s do this together.
There are few things more frustrating than running into the same marriage issues over and over again.
Potty-training comes to mind as one of those few things, but that's a different topic entirely. 🤣
Whether it’s poor (or nonexistent) communication, resentment, unmet expectations, lack of leadership, or drifting intimacy, the root problems in marriage often feel complex—but many of them actually trace back to our mindset and our heart posture.
That’s where renewing your mind through the Word becomes powerful.
Scripture doesn’t just teach behavior modification—it transforms you from the inside out.
When you turn to the Bible for wisdom instead of turning only to other people for advice, you will start seeing deeper solutions to the struggles you face in your marriage.
Let’s look at a few examples:
- Communication struggles? James 1:19 reminds us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
- Bitterness or unforgiveness? Ephesians 4:31–32 calls us to put away all bitterness and instead be kind and forgiving.
- Missing intimacy or drifting connection? 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 paints a picture of love that is patient, selfless, and not easily offended. (That one is TOUGH.)
- Lack of leadership? 1 Peter 3 instructs wives to submit to their husbands - even those who disobey the Word - out of reverence and obedience to God, not because their husbands are perfect leaders (this godly submission on your part is one way to influence your husband to grow in leadership, and grow towards Christ).
- Feeling purposeless? Titus 2 describes the role of older women teaching the younger - so whether you're in the "older" category, your role is to teach the younger the things listed in that passage, and if you're in the "younger" category, your role is to spend time learning those things and implementing them well within your home and family.
God’s Word is practical, powerful, and personal.
When you take time to meditate on His truth and apply it—even to small situations in your marriage—you'll notice yourself responding differently intuitively.
You'll become more aware of your tone. You'll notice when you're assuming something without actual facts behind it. You'll slow down and seek understanding and wisdom.
And as you change, it will create space for healing and growth in your marriage.
Not only will you notice yourself changing, more than likely your husband will notice too - and God can use that to draw your husband to Himself.
This week:
Choose one challenge you’ve been facing and look up 2–3 verses that speak into that issue.
Write them down and pray over them daily.
The Word won’t return void (Isaiah 55:11)—it will accomplish exactly what God intends.
Need some help getting started? I created a free Marriage Scripture Journal to help you dig into God's Word. Grab your copy at the link below.
In the beginning...
I'm sure you know the story. God creates all the things, then He breathes life into man.
He sees the first male as alone, and decides he needs a helper; then He creates woman FROM man.
Notice the reason woman was created was to be a helper. That role wasn't a result of the fall; it was assigned to her prior to the fall.
On the other hand, what WAS a result of the fall was woman's desire "for" her husband - most understood and recognized as her desire to control him.
As a result, one of the most common struggles for wives is the tendency to take control—over the schedule, the parenting decisions, the finances, the way things are done.
But underneath that need to control is often fear. Fear of failure, fear of chaos, or fear that things won’t go “right” unless she steps in (which - SPOILER - is also a HUGE indication of pride).
But God doesn’t call you to live from a place of fear. He calls you to trust Him—and one way that trust shows up is in how you relate to your husband.
When you spend time renewing your mind in Scripture, you begin to release the tight grip of control and instead gain quiet, Christ-centered confidence.
Confidence in the Lord allows you to respond with grace when your husband leads differently than you would.
I've heard it said that the measure of a woman's trust in God can be seen in how she submits to her husband.
Trusting the Lord helps you speak with wisdom instead of worry. It builds your ability to communicate with love rather than criticism. And most importantly, it strengthens your faith in God’s sovereignty over your home and marriage.
Practical steps in this area might include:
- Choosing not to "correct" every small thing your husband does differently than you.
- Praying before giving your opinion in a tense conversation.
- Trusting your husband with a parenting or financial decision—and supporting him, even if it’s not what you would do.
- Respecting your husband's decisions - even if you think they're completely wrong - because you know God can protect and guide your family THROUGH any decision, wrong or right.
- Meditating on verses like Isaiah 26:3 or Proverbs 3:5–6 that refocus your mind on God’s control, not yours.
Christ-centered confidence isn’t loud, harsh, or forceful. It’s quiet strength that flows from being anchored in the Word.
When you shift from controlling everything to trusting God in everything, your home—and heart—will experience peace like you could never imagine.
Need a little help? Grab the Marriage Scripture Journal—a 4-week guide to help you study full chapters of God’s Word and apply them to your marriage with clarity and confidence.
If you're anything like most wives today, you're trying your best to do it all—manage your home, caring for your children, serve at church, and do your best to love your husband well.
But far too often, those efforts are fueled by pressure, emotion, a sense of "Christian" duty, or even cultural expectations - rather than the truth of God's Word.
And when that’s the case, discouragement usually isn’t far behind.
The role of a godly wife wasn’t designed to be driven by emotion, pride, obligation, or performance. It was designed to be rooted in the truth of Scripture and faith in God.
When a woman renews her mind with the Word of God, everything changes—her tone, her perspective, her posture, and even her purpose.
She begins to see that her role isn’t just about meeting needs or keeping peace (and - spoiler alert - we're called to be MAKERS of peace, not keepers of peace).
The role of a godly wife is about glorifying God through her words, her attitude, and her trust in Him.
But you can't live out that role without understanding what God's Word says - not what other people tell you it says.
Wives who consistently spend time in the Word often begin to notice a shift:
🟣 their respect becomes more intentional
🟣 their love becomes more selfless
🟣 their communication becomes more patient.
Why? Because the Word sanctifies (John 17:17). It reshapes how you think, and therefore how you respond.
If you’ve felt stagnant or frustrated in your role as a wife, ask yourself: am I being shaped by the Word or by the world? Are my thoughts toward my husband rooted in truth, or in emotion?
This week, start small—spend 10–15 minutes reading one passage (Ephesians 5, Proverbs 31, or 1 Peter 3 are great places to begin).
Ask the Lord to show you something specific to apply. Write it down, pray it over your marriage, and revisit it daily.
Over time, you’ll see the transformation—not just in your actions, but in your heart.
