Sweet sister, have you ever thought about how much God’s love shapes your marriage?
I'm sure you've had thoughts about God bringing the right man to you to marry, maybe you've thanked Him for leading you to your husband, or maybe you've wondered if you actually did marry the right man.
But have you thought about how His love - His godly, enduring, long-suffering, faithful, selfless, servant-hearted love - daily affects your marriage?
God's love is the cornerstone, the glue, and the safety net all rolled into one.
Without His love, we’re left striving and falling short.
But when God’s love is your foundation - meaning it's the motivating factor behind every action and response you have towards your husband - everything changes.
God’s love is unconditional—it doesn’t depend on how well you “perform” as a wife. And that same unconditional love is what should spur you on to extend grace when your husband messes up, forgets something, hurts your feelings, disappoints you, or when you're in the middle of a heated argument.
It’s a love that chooses (intentionally, meaning you do have control over your ability to do this) forgiveness over bitterness and encouragement over criticism.
One of my favorite verses is 1 John 4:19:
We love because He first loved us.
As Christians, one of our goals is to become more Christlike each and every day.
Knowing that Christ loved you first, and you want to be more like Him, you should also desire to "go first" in your marriage - apologize first, respect first, organize date nights first, extend the olive branch first.
When you’re feeling worn out or unappreciated, let this truth sink in: God’s love isn’t only for you to receive; it’s for you to reflect. As Proverbs 11:25 reminds us:
One who waters will himself be watered.
When you water your marriage, you will be watered. When you reflect God's love to your husband, it creates a safe space for growth, healing, and joy.
This week, take time to rest in God’s love for you.
Meditate on Scripture, journal your thoughts, and ask the Lord to open your eyes to His love for you.
Then, look for opportunities to allow that love to overflow into your marriage—whether it’s a kind word, a forgiving heart, or a simple hug.
Bonus points for finding ways to specifically love your husband in his own love language.
Let’s anchor our marriages in God’s love and watch Him do amazing things through us.
Hey sweet friend, pour a cup of coffee and let's talk about love—the real, gritty, God-designed kind that makes marriages thrive.
We hear “love” tossed around so casually ("Okay, love you, bye!"), but biblical love is in a league of its own.
It’s not just warm feelings or grand gestures; it’s patient, kind, and selfless. It’s the kind of love Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 13—love that doesn’t keep score, isn’t easily angered, and rejoices in the truth.
It's the kind of love that requires action - intentional acts done offered from a heart of obedience, not necessarily driven by emotion.
And let's be honest: this kind of love rarely comes naturally.
When your husband forgets to take out the trash (again), or it feels like you’re carrying the weight of the family on your shoulders, the love that “always protects, always trusts, always hopes” can feel out of reach.
But here’s the beautiful thing: biblical love isn’t something we manufacture on our own. It’s the love of Christ flowing through us, empowering us to love in ways we never could on our own.
Understanding biblical love starts with seeing marriage as a reflection of God’s love for His people.
Ephesians 5 reminds us that a husband and wife are meant to mirror Christ and the church—sacrificial love on one side, respectful submission on the other.
It’s a dance of mutual care and humility, and when we embrace God’s design, it transforms the way we relate to each other.
This week, take a moment to read 1 Corinthians 13 with fresh eyes, imagining each verse as a lens for your marriage. Pray and ask God to show you how to love your husband with more patience, more kindness, and less self-seeking. None of us do this perfectly, but by leaning on the Lord, we grow in grace every day.
Let’s commit to walking this out together, one loving action at a time. The ripple effects on your marriage will be worth it.
Sweet friend, I have been where you are.
If you’re carrying guilt or regret from last year—missed opportunities, unresolved conflict, uncompleted goals, or just feeling like you’ve fallen short—I want you to know something: God’s grace is bigger than your mistakes.
Romans 5:20 says,
where sin increased, grace abounded all the more,
Letting go of guilt isn’t about pretending it never happened; it’s about trusting that Jesus paid the price for it and choosing to walk in the freedom He offers.
YES. It is a CHOICE to hold on to guilt or to release it.
Start by confessing your guilt to God.
1 John 1:9 says,
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Rest in that promise and allow His forgiveness to wash over you.
Next, recognize that nowhere in Scripture are we told to forgive ourselves. Why? Because God's justice is so much higher than ours. His sense of judgement is so much greater. If God Himself says we are forgiven, then our forgiveness is moot.
HE has forgiven you - and HIS GRACE is sufficient.
Holding onto guilt only keeps you stuck. God's desire is for you to move forward in new growth. Embrace the new mercies God gives you each day (Lamentations 3:23) and use them as a fresh start.
Instead of dwelling on the past, ask God how He wants you to grow and move forward - and then take action to do it.
Finally, surround yourself with encouragement. Whether it’s joining a small group, being intentional about studying God's Word each day to gain wisdom and be transformed, or spending time with wise, godly friends, find ways to keep God’s truth in front of you.
If you’re looking for a practical step toward renewal, join my 5-Day Spiritual Reset Challenge that starts tomorrow. It’s a week of daily prompts to help you let go of guilt, refocus your heart, and embrace the grace God so freely offers.
Let’s walk this journey of renewal together!
Have you ever somehow lost the habit of spending time with God? Life happens, and it can be easy for our quiet time routines to be the first thing to go.
But guess what? It’s never too late to start again.
God simply wants to spend time with you, and He wants to reveal Himself to you through His Word.
He is ALWAYS ready, and always full of mercy and grace for you.
Today, let’s talk about how you can easily reset your quiet time routine with grace and simplicity.
First, identify your why.
Why do you want to spend time with God?
Is it to:
- deepen your relationship with Him
- find peace in your day, or
- seek guidance?
Knowing your why will keep you motivated when life gets busy.
Next, choose a realistic plan.
If mornings feel rushed, find a pocket of time in the afternoon or evening that works for you.
Keep it simple—one chapter of the Bible (or even just a paragraph), a journal, and maybe a hot cup of coffee. Focus on consistency over perfection.
Finally, ask for God’s help.
Pray for discipline and a hunger for His Word.
He loves to meet us in our weaknesses and He will always provide what we need to grow when we seek Him.
Need a little extra help to get started? I created something just for you! Download my free Quieting Your Mind Guide—it walks you through 4 simple steps with practical tips to help you discover the richness in God's Word. This guide is perfect when your mind tends to wander but you really want to get back into a habit of being excited for your time with the Lord.
Let’s make this year the one where quiet time becomes the best part of your day.
The start of a new year feels like a blank page, doesn’t it? There’s something so refreshing about knowing you can turn the corner and start fresh.
But if you’re anything like me, you might also feel a little overwhelmed.
There are a million and one new ideas for organizing your home. A thousand posts about how to reinvigorate and stir new passion into your marriage. Hundreds of suggestions for how to create routines that will help you to move your body and drink more water.
Or maybe it's your your faith that feels a bit stale, and you’re wondering which influencer to follow to rekindle that passion for God. Maybe you feel a little guilty because last year's resolutions didn't stick through the year.
Let me reassure you: God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23), and He’s ready to meet you right where you are.
And friend - when you meet with Him consistently, that one single step will refresh EVERY other area of your life.
Here is my encouragement to you: instead of jumping into an ambitious Bible reading plan that feels daunting, start with one passage or chapter a day and ask God to open your mind to His wisdom and grant you understanding.
Couple this with prayer—an honest conversation with Him about your fears, your desire to grow spiritually, your needs for your marriage, kids, work, and friendships, and your desire to surrender everything to His perfect will.
Trust that He can and will work in your heart as you first make it a priority to seek Him in Scripture, and second make it a priority to lay everything at His feet in obedience to Him.
Consider setting a faith-led goal for the year. Maybe it’s to study one book of the Bible deeply (you don't have to read the entire Bible in a year in order to grow!), memorize Scripture (perhaps one verse a month?), or pray regularly with your husband (or pray for him, if praying together isn't an option).
Whatever it is, make it personal and meaningful. And remember, you don’t have to do this alone! Surround yourself with women who will encourage and support you in your journey.
If you know God is calling you to take this one step to draw closer to Him, I would love to invite you to enroll in the Wives of the Word: Bible Study Methods for Women course! Doors are currently open, but only until THIS Friday, January 10, 2025.
This is your opportunity to start 2025 refreshed, with the tools and confidence to study Scripture deeply (even on the days you only have a few minutes), apply God’s truths to your marriage, parenting, and life, and grow into the women God has called you to be - while I hold your hand and guide you step-by-step, and with the encouragement and support of other women learning alongside you.
Enroll now and take the first step toward a life of spiritual renewal and joy! Doors close Friday, so don't miss out!
Let’s start this year with hearts renewed and ready for what God has in store!
