If you find yourself overthinking every decision—afraid that you're always one wrong move from ruining everything—I just want to gently say:
You’re not alone.
You’re not alone.
I talk to so many women who feel stuck in their own heads, second-guessing their choices. The stakes feel high.
Should I homeschool or send them to school?
Should we move or stay?
Is this opportunity from God—or am I just being selfish?
You want to get it right. You want to honor God.
And that’s a good thing.
But when that desire turns into fear—fear of failure, fear of getting it wrong, fear of disappointing someone—you're not walking in freedom anymore.
You're walking in bondage dressed up as “obedience.”
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” — 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV)
Sweet friend, God isn’t waiting for you to trip.
He’s not hiding the “right” answer behind Door #3.
In fact, most of the time, the answers we need (or the criteria we need to help us make the right decisions) are right there in Scripture for us - we just have to be willing to diligently study the wise counsel God has already given us.
He’s a generous Father who leads you.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” — James 1:5
🌿 What’s Really Under the Fear?
Let’s be honest for a second.
Sometimes, the fear of making the wrong decision is rooted in pride.
That might sound harsh—but it’s worth sitting with.
You think:
- I should be able to get this right.
- I don’t want to disappoint anyone.
- What if I mess up God’s plan?
But those thoughts reveal something deeper:
A belief that you have to be perfect... because maybe you don't believe God is.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” — Proverbs 16:9
You don’t need to have all the answers.
You need a heart that says:
“Lord, I want to follow You—even if I take a shaky first step.”
🪞What Faithful Decision-Making Looks Like
So if not fear or perfectionism… what does honoring God in our decisions actually look like?
Here’s what I encourage women to walk through:
1. Pray first.
Before the research. Before the social media polls. Before the phone calls.
Sit with the Lord.
“God, I want to honor You. Would You guide me?”
He is not silent.
He is not hiding.
He promises to lead those who seek Him.
2. Seek your husband’s counsel.
If you’re married, this is essential.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church...” — Ephesians 5:22–23
Your husband isn’t just a sounding board—he’s the God-ordained head of your home. God holds him responsible for the well-being of your family. That’s weighty. And it’s protective.
Invite his insight. Share your heart. Honor his leadership.
If he gives you freedom to decide—praise God. Walk in it.
But what if he makes a final call that’s different from what you wanted?
That’s where submission becomes obedience to the Lord—not just agreement with your husband.
And if that feels hard or frustrating—ask yourself:
Is it truly about honoring God… or just keeping control?
3. Seek wise, godly counsel.
Go beyond the internet.
Ask older women of faith. Ask women who know the Word, not just your situation.
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” — Proverbs 11:14
4. Check your motive.
Is the choice you are making because of:
- Fear of man?
- Desire for control?
- Comfort?
Or...
Is this aligned with biblical values, God’s Word, and the convictions He’s been stirring in my heart?
5. Look for peace—not ease.
Peace doesn’t always feel “easy.”
It might still feel scary, uncertain, or uncomfortable.
But it won’t feel frantic, pressured, or panicked.
“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts...” — Colossians 3:15
When you feel that settled, Spirit-filled calm—even if it’s hard—that’s often your green light.
But a word of caution:
While emotions can be a gift from God, they should never be your final decision-maker.
Let the Word guide your choices—not just your feelings.
6. Make the decision.
Take one step forward.
Even a small one.
God leads people who are moving—not stuck in fear.
He won't force a parked car.
He doesn’t demand perfection. He desires surrender.
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105
He gives you enough light for the next step—not the entire map. HE knows the entire future; you don't have to.
🌸 A Word of Reassurance
Here’s a quote I love from A.W. Tozer:
“The man or woman who is wholly or joyously surrendered to Christ can’t make a wrong decision. Because a heart that is truly yielded to God’s will won’t deliberately choose rebellion.”
If your heart is surrendered, if you’re actively seeking Him, and if you’re willing to obey—God’s not going to let you miss it.
Even if you make the “less ideal” choice, God is still sovereign.
“We know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” — Romans 8:28
He will redirect you if He wants to.
He can use the detours.
He can work with imperfect choices made in faith.
📝 A Gentle Exercise to Try Today
If you’re feeling stuck or anxious, here’s something simple you can do:
- Write down the decision that’s weighing on you.
- Ask God—out loud or in writing—for wisdom.
- Bring it to your husband. Hear his thoughts with humility and an open mind.
- Reach out to a godly mentor or older woman in the faith.
- Write down any motives you’re noticing in your heart.
- Ask the Lord to help you discern His will and align your desires with His.
- Then take one step. Just one.
You are not failing.
You are not behind.
You are being built—into a woman who trusts God, even in the fog.
You don’t have to be perfect.
You just have to be faithful.
Motherhood has a way of exposing all our insecurities, doesn’t it?
Like every decision is eternal.
Like if we get it wrong today, we’ll ruin tomorrow.
If you're anything like me, you've had moments where you've whispered under your breath,
“What if I’m messing them up?”
“How do I know I’m doing enough?”
“What if I’m messing them up?”
“How do I know I’m doing enough?”
Here’s what I want to remind you (and me):
God never asked us to be flawless. He asked us to be faithful.
God never asked us to be flawless. He asked us to be faithful.
“He will tend his flock like a shepherd;
he will gather the lambs in his arms;
he will carry them in his bosom,
and gently lead those that are with young.”
Isaiah 40:11 isn't just a nice verse. That’s a description of YOUR Heavenly Father, sweet friend.
The Lord isn’t critiquing your performance—He’s gently leading you.
So if you’re in the thick of it today—worn out, unsure, or silently questioning yourself as a mother—here are three ways to shift from fear to faith:
1. Redefine success
Instead of measuring success by outcomes (your child's obedience, behavior, growth charts, or grade levels), ask this instead:
💬 Am I being faithful to teach, love, and point them to Christ?
That’s your job. Not saving them. Not perfect parenting.
Your faithfulness will serve them better than your attempts at being flawless.
2. Let them see you need Jesus too
You don’t have to be the hero in your home—Jesus already is.
Say it out loud:
"Mommy needs grace too."
"I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?"
"I lost my patience, but Jesus is helping me grow."
"Mommy needs grace too."
"I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?"
"I lost my patience, but Jesus is helping me grow."
Your kids don’t need perfection. They need to see repentance in real-time. That’s what forms disciples.
Modeling humility fosters their respect for you, and grows their own humility.
3. Stay rooted in truth
You don’t need more blogs, books, or parenting hacks. You need the Word of God anchoring your heart.
Start small. One chapter a day. Write a verse on a sticky note, or on your phone lock screen.
Let the truth do what only truth can do: renew your mind and steady your spirit.
“He will not let your foot be moved;
he who keeps you will not slumber.” — Psalm 121:3
While you sleep, He watches over you.
While you stir oatmeal, fold laundry, and question everything—you are being kept.
So if today felt messy, pause.
Thank God for His mercy.
And remember this:
His mercies are new every morning—not just for your kids, but for you, too.
His mercies are new every morning—not just for your kids, but for you, too.
You’re not falling behind.
You’re being led.
You’re being led.
You don’t need to do more.
You need to abide more.
You need to abide more.
Take a deep breath.
He’s here in the mess with you.
He’s here in the mess with you.
Let’s Talk About It:
- What lies are you believing about “success” in motherhood?
- What would change if you started each day asking God to lead you gently?
- What Scripture could you cling to this week?
In the beginning...
I'm sure you know the story. God creates all the things, then He breathes life into man.
He sees the first male as alone, and decides he needs a helper; then He creates woman FROM man.
Notice the reason woman was created was to be a helper. That role wasn't a result of the fall; it was assigned to her prior to the fall.
On the other hand, what WAS a result of the fall was woman's desire "for" her husband - most understood and recognized as her desire to control him.
As a result, one of the most common struggles for wives is the tendency to take control—over the schedule, the parenting decisions, the finances, the way things are done.
But underneath that need to control is often fear. Fear of failure, fear of chaos, or fear that things won’t go “right” unless she steps in (which - SPOILER - is also a HUGE indication of pride).
But God doesn’t call you to live from a place of fear. He calls you to trust Him—and one way that trust shows up is in how you relate to your husband.
When you spend time renewing your mind in Scripture, you begin to release the tight grip of control and instead gain quiet, Christ-centered confidence.
Confidence in the Lord allows you to respond with grace when your husband leads differently than you would.
I've heard it said that the measure of a woman's trust in God can be seen in how she submits to her husband.
Trusting the Lord helps you speak with wisdom instead of worry. It builds your ability to communicate with love rather than criticism. And most importantly, it strengthens your faith in God’s sovereignty over your home and marriage.
Practical steps in this area might include:
- Choosing not to "correct" every small thing your husband does differently than you.
- Praying before giving your opinion in a tense conversation.
- Trusting your husband with a parenting or financial decision—and supporting him, even if it’s not what you would do.
- Respecting your husband's decisions - even if you think they're completely wrong - because you know God can protect and guide your family THROUGH any decision, wrong or right.
- Meditating on verses like Isaiah 26:3 or Proverbs 3:5–6 that refocus your mind on God’s control, not yours.
Christ-centered confidence isn’t loud, harsh, or forceful. It’s quiet strength that flows from being anchored in the Word.
When you shift from controlling everything to trusting God in everything, your home—and heart—will experience peace like you could never imagine.
Need a little help? Grab the Marriage Scripture Journal—a 4-week guide to help you study full chapters of God’s Word and apply them to your marriage with clarity and confidence.
Raising teenagers in today’s world can feel like spiritual warfare.
Maybe that's because the vast majority of the time, it is.
There’s so much noise—from social media, school pressures, cultural confusion—and sometimes we feel like our voice is the last one they want to hear.
But mama, your voice still matters.
And even more importantly, your example matters.
When you prioritize Bible study, you're not just feeding your own soul—you're modeling what it looks like to stay rooted in truth.
Your teens need to see that faith isn’t just something you just talk about on Sundays. It’s something you fight for daily.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 encourages us:
“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children.”
That teaching doesn’t stop when they grow taller than us. (If it did, I would have stopped when my kids were in elementary school. If you know me, you know. #shortgirlproblems)
Set the tone in your home by making Bible study visible and normal.
Let your teen see you reading the Word, journaling, or praying.
Invite them to read with you—maybe once a week over breakfast, during dinner, or before bed.
Ask what they’re struggling with and offer Scripture that speaks to it. They may roll their eyes at first, but seeds are being planted.
Here are a few ways to stay grounded and pour truth into your teens:
- Have a personal Bible reading plan and share what you're learning (not sure where to start with a personal reading plan? Email me or comment below and let's chat so I can help you create one!)
- Ask your teen to join you for one verse or one short devotional each week
- Listen to worship music whenever you're in the car together
- Text them Scripture or encouragement (they’re already on their phones!)
- Pray for them—and with them—regularly
- Start a blessing journal you share with your teen where you both write answered prayers, gratitude, or where you saw God at work that day
- Create a Scripture scavenger hunt by hiding index cards with verses or prayers in their backpack, shoes, bathroom mirror, or car
- Do a service project together (like at a food pantry or helping a neighbor) to spark faith conversations in real-life moments
- Build a worship + testimony playlist together and include a few audio clips of you sharing prayers or stories of God’s faithfulness
- Set up a family group chat for spiritual encouragement to share verses, prayers, or reminders of God’s truth throughout the week
- Celebrate spiritual milestones (like baptism, finishing a Bible study, or stepping out in faith) with a special meal or small gift
- Host a faith and food night by inviting your teen’s friends over for pizza and a short devo, prayer, or testimony time
This season requires perseverance, but it’s holy work. Don’t give up.
Galatians 6:9 promises,
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
Stay rooted so you can guide them well. We can't be the moms our kids need apart from Christ. This season requires intentionality in abiding in Him.
When we think of Easter, we usually think of that one Sunday each year when we celebrate the resurrection of Christ.
We know His resurrection means new life, so we celebrate with eggs, chicks, bunnies, and flowers, all the things that evoke feelings of freshness, newness, and beginnings.
After that one day is over though...then what?
The resurrection of Jesus invites us into a whole new way of living—every single day.
Romans 6:4 tells us,
Just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.
And there's the question...what does it actually mean to walk in newness of life when we’re knee-deep in laundry, tantrums, marriage difficulties, and the never-ending cycle of responsibilities?
What does this look like, day in and day out? When nothing feels new anymore, but instead you just feel stuck and stale?
Walking in newness of life starts with a mindset shift.
Instead of waking up dreading the demands of the day, you can wake up intentionally thinking about the truth that you are a daughter of the risen King.
The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in YOU, giving you strength to meet those demands - to love your husband well, have patience for your kids, and find joy in the mundane.
Those are all fruits of the Spirit, and if you are intentional about growing in Christ, those fruits will be grown and developed in you.
One practical way to develop this mindset is by renewing your mind daily through Scripture.
The enemy wants you to believe that you're stuck in your bad habits, your overwhelmed schedule, your frustrations, hormone imbalances, and your struggles.
But when you fill your mind with God’s truth, you're reminded that you're a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17) and that His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23).
What does this look like, to fill your mind with God's truth?
Waking up anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour earlier to prioritize God in your life by reading and deeply studying His Word, recognizing that He alone is the source of your strength and ability to walk in newness of life each day - but if you don't spend TIME with Him, you aren't accessing the strength, joy, and growth He offers you.
If you have no idea where to even start reading the Bible, or how to study it, please reach out to me! God has given me such a deep desire to help teach and guide women in learning how to read and study His Word, and I would be happy to walk alongside you.
Another way to walk in newness of life is by choosing joy.
Instead of getting caught up in frustration, you can make the intentional choice to pause, breathe, take your thoughts captive, and remind yourself that Jesus is alive—and that reality changes everything.
A simple habit of starting the day with gratitude or ending it with a quick reflection on how you saw God’s goodness can make a huge difference.
Grab a simple dollar store journal to keep at your bedside so you can jot a few things down when you wake up, or before you head to bed each night.
Every day is a chance to live differently because of what Jesus has done.
Let’s not just celebrate the resurrection one Sunday a year—let’s walk in that newness of life every single day.
Tell me: what are some ways you intentionally walk in newness of life each day?
