I remember the first time I used the SOAP method.
I signed up to lead an online Bible study for a group of women through Good Morning Girls. I didn't even know what a Bible study "method" was, I wasn't familiar with Good Morning Girls, I just knew I needed...something.
And what better way to stay accountable than to lead it, right?
It felt awkward at first—I wasn’t used to writing things out, making my own observations, figuring out for myself how to apply the passage, or praying the Scripture back to God.
But let me tell you: the fruit of that one tiny shift? Incredible.
Before SOAP, I was a check-the-box girl - if even that. I’d read a devotional, briefly skim the one verse included, take in what the author had to say, and then check off the box, satisfied that I'd done my duty.
My heart wasn’t changing, my responses weren’t growing in wisdom, and my marriage wasn’t being shaped by the Word I claimed to believe (but honestly - I didn't really even know it).
After SOAP, everything slowed down. I was no longer just reading—I was studying. Observing. Listening. Applying.
I started seeing where I needed to be more discerning with my husband (how to respect, but also how not enable or submit to abuse - this was all during my second marriage, so this is no reflection on my sweet husband that I'm married to now). I saw where I needed to speak more gently to my kids. Where my trust in the Lord was shaky and needed to grow.
SOAP helped me to see more of God in the Bible.
Here’s how it looks:
- S - Scripture: Write out the verse or passage, or summarize it.
- O - Observation: What stands out? Who is this about? What is the tone, the promise, the command? What sins should I avoid, what instructions should I obey? What truth is this revealing about man, Christ, God, or something else?
- A - Application: How can I apply this to my life as a wife, mom, or daughter of God?
- P - Prayer: Talk to God about what you’ve learned and ask Him to help you live it out.
SOAP was just the beginning; I've since discovered so many other study methods like Verse Mapping, the Bible Digest method, the 7 Lenses, SPECK, and more.
Currently I'm taking a course in Phrasing: breaking down a passage into each individual phrase, labeling the types of phrases and seeing how they all work together to relay the main message the author intended to convey. It's fascinating and helps me see how much more I will always have to learn about God's Word!
This week, try SOAP with a passage like Titus 2:3-5 or Ephesians 1 Peter 3:1-7.
And I do mean take a WEEK. Don't try to do it all in one sitting. Remember, the goal isn't to just check the box and be done for the day. The goal is to learn more about God and be transformed by His Word.
Take 10 minutes a day, or longer if you have it, and just see what happens as you intentionally focus on studying Scripture daily.
I promise—it’s a game-changer.
And when you find that you love it and you're ready to dig into another method, I'll be here for you!
I used to feel so overwhelmed by all the Bible study methods out there.
SOAP, inductive, verse mapping, color-coding, commentary deep-dives… whew.
As a busy wife and mom, I just needed something that worked and made sense.
The truth is—there’s no “one size fits all” method. But there is a best method for you, in this season.
Let’s break down a few simple ones:
SOAP (Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer):
This one’s my favorite for busy mornings. You write the verse out or simply summarize it, observe what it’s saying, journal out applications you feel called to make personally, and respond in prayer. It’s simple but deep.
SPECK (Sin to avoid, Promise to claim, Example to follow, Command to obey, Knowledge about God):
This one is more of an overall observation method to help you pull out wisdom you could potentially miss. This is great when you need a little guidance finding application straight from the text—especially if you struggle to see how the Bible connects to your daily life.
Verse Mapping:
If you like digging into the original language and comparing translations, this one’s for you. There is so much more depth when you realize why an author was using a specific word, or learn what other meaning is behind the word they used. It’s a little more detailed, but super rich if you want to grow in understanding.
Bible Digest Method (a.k.a. Homiletics):
This one’s amazing for bigger passages or teaching others. For clarification, let me state that I believe Scripture prohibits women from preaching to men or having authority over them, so this method is not for the purpose of preparing a typical sermon. However, Titus 2 does command older women to teach the younger and this method could be used to help you better understand what you are going to teach younger women (or children). You summarize the main idea, find key points, and think about how to apply and share it.
I always tell women this: the best Bible study method is the one that helps you actually understand and apply what you read.
It’s not about doing what’s trending—it’s about doing what helps you connect with the Word.
This week, try a new method! I created a little freebie Bible Study Tool Kit (with SOAP and SPECK templates) to help you experiment and find your favorite.
You don’t need children in your home—or even any children of your own—to walk in the beautiful calling of spiritual motherhood.
Some of the women who’ve shaped my life the most never raised kids themselves, and others impactful women were in a new season of life with grown children and empty nests.
But all of them had one thing in common: they were intentional about nurturing hearts with truth, encouragement, and godly wisdom.
If your season looks different now—maybe your kids are grown and gone, or maybe motherhood wasn’t part of your story—please hear this: your role in the Kingdom has not ended.
It may have shifted, but it’s no less powerful or purposeful.
Titus 2:3–5 paints a picture of spiritual motherhood: older women teaching younger women how to live godly lives.
This isn’t just about age—it’s about spiritual maturity.
If you’ve walked with Jesus for a while, you have something valuable to offer. Your testimony, your experiences, your lessons learned through faith—all of it can be used by God to strengthen the next generation of women.
And here’s why this matters so much:
We're living in a time when younger women are desperate for truth, but drowning in noise.
They’re bombarded with the world’s opinions on marriage, motherhood, identity, and purpose.
No one is teaching them how to seek and study God's Word for HIS TRUTH on marriage, motherhood, identity, and purpose.
God is raising up women like you—women rooted in His Word—to help guide them back to what’s true.
Being a Titus 2 woman isn’t just a sweet idea—it’s a Kingdom assignment.
It’s a way we participate in God’s plan for discipleship, mentorship, and generational impact. If we don’t step in and speak truth, who will?
So what does it actually look like to walk in this calling?
💕 Maybe it’s mentoring a younger wife who’s struggling to balance life and marriage.
💕 Maybe it’s offering to babysit for a weary mom so she can take a breath.
💕 Maybe it’s starting a Bible study in your living room, texting Scripture to a teen girl you’re investing in, or simply being present and available for someone who needs wisdom.
💕 Don’t underestimate how powerful your steady, Christ-centered presence can be.
Here are a few practical ways to embrace spiritual motherhood in this season:
- Offer to disciple a younger woman one-on-one
- Volunteer in the children’s or youth ministry at your church
- Host a Bible study for wives in your home or community
- Reach out to a young mom with a meal, prayer, or a listening ear
- Consistently check in on a young wife or college-aged woman
Proverbs 31:26 says,
“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”
That can be you. Whether you’re in an empty nest season or have never had children of your own, you still have spiritual fruit to bear.
Don’t let the enemy convince you that your time of influence is over.
God sees your heart, your wisdom, your faithfulness—and He is still using you in mighty, meaningful, and eternal ways.
Want a little more guidance? Grab these free downloads: "10 Ways To Be A Titus 2 Woman This Month" and "Scripture Prayer List for Spiritual Mothers: Pray Over The Next Generation With The Word of God".
Share with me: what are some other ways you have seen spiritual mothers pour into the younger generation? What are some ways you have perhaps done this yourself?
