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5 Ways to Bring Christ Into the Chaos at Home

5 Ways to Bring Christ Into the Chaos at Home
Let’s be honest…

Home doesn’t always feel like the peaceful haven we imagined when we first got married, or when our first baby was born.

Some days it’s loud. Messy. Heavy.

You’re trying to get dinner on the table while someone’s yelling about socks (or poop if you're a boy mom), and suddenly the idea of a “Christ-centered home” feels more like a distant dream than something you can actually live out..

But here’s what I want you to know:

Jesus doesn’t wait for quiet to enter. He comes right into the noise.

And when you start to intentionally invite Him in, even in small ways—
The atmosphere shifts.

So what does a Christ-centered atmosphere actually look like?

It’s not about fresh flowers on the table and a diffuser going (though those things are lovely - we do have a diffuser running every day but my cat eats fresh flowers).

It’s not even about perfect obedience or chore charts with Scripture verses.

At its core, a Christ-centered home is one where:

  • God’s Word is known and spoken—regularly, not perfectly
  • Prayer is part of real, everyday life, not just a bedtime routine
  • Grace is given… and often given again
  • Repentance is modeled, not hidden
  • Love leads the room—even when emotions are high
Paul said it this way:
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.”
— 
Colossians 3:15–16
And I love that he didn’t say when the kids are cooperating or once everyone’s emotionally regulated.

He just said: let Him rule. Let Him dwell.

5 Ways to Shift the Atmosphere—Without Overhauling Your Life

You don’t need a full schedule overhaul or a family-wide transformation plan.

Small shifts, repeated over time, will do more than one big “spiritual reset” ever could.

Here are five places you could start today:

1. Play worship in the background

When you fill your heart with the truths of God's word, with praise of Him, worship of Him, and gratitude for Him, your heart softens.

And when your heart softens, so does the tone of the whole house.

It doesn’t have to be loud. Just let truth start filling the quiet moments again.

Often, I will pull up a YouTube live stream channel that just has instrumental hymns playing, and I leave it on throughout the day.

2. Put Scripture where you’ll see it

A sticky note on the bathroom mirror. A verse on the fridge.

Or my personal favorite, wall art from Hobby Lobby. 😊

One mom told me her daughter now puts up her own verses after watching her do it.

That’s the fruit of consistency, not perfection.

3. Pray out loud in real-time

It doesn’t have to be deep or long.

It doesn't have to be eloquent or worded perfectly.

Just—“Jesus, help us have peace right now.” Or “Lord, thank You for this moment.” Or "Father, protect the people that ambulance/fire truck is going to help."

These small moments teach your kids Who you run to.

4. Model repentance

One of the most powerful things I’ve ever done as a mom is look my child in the eye and say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry.”

Repentance doesn’t weaken your authority—it strengthens their respect.

5. Speak life on purpose

When tension rises, speak God’s Word out loud into that room.

Even if it’s just you whispering it under your breath while folding towels.

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue…”
— 
Proverbs 18:21
You’re setting the spiritual temperature, whether you mean to or not.

A Few Questions to Gently Consider

Not to bring shame, but rather clarity.

  • What’s being talked about the most in our home?
  • What’s playing in the background: news, music, noise, silence?
  • What would someone feel if they walked through our front door?
You don’t need a perfect answer. Just an honest one.

Because when Christ is centered, peace begins to grow—even if it’s slow.

Verses to Carry Into the Chaos

🕊 Romans 12:18
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

🕊 Philippians 4:7
“And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

🕊 Proverbs 24:3–4
“By wisdom a house is built… by knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”

Last Thought, Sweet Friend

You’re not failing if your house feels tense right now. Let's be real...sometimes you do all you can and the tension remains.

You’re not behind spiritually.

And you don’t need to “try harder” to make your home holy.

You just need to keep building—with Jesus at the center.

One verse. One prayer. One act of humility at a time.

Start small. Start again if you need to.

Let Christ fill the chaos.

That’s where peace begins.

✨ Want help getting started?
If you’re not sure what to pray or where to begin…
Grab your free copy of 30 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Home and let God’s Word lead the way.
📩 Download it here!

What My Son Taught Me About Loving God at the Breakfast Table

What My Son Taught Me About Loving God at the Breakfast Table
The other morning, my 4-year-old and I were reading from his Early Reader’s Bible.

(Actually, he was reading, I was listening.)

We got to the question: “How can you show love to God?”

Without missing a beat, he said,
“Um...sing songs to Him. And read this book!”

This book—the Bible he had just been reading to me.

His answer stopped me. Not just because it was insightful (which it was!), but because it reminded me that our simple morning rhythm—Bible and breakfast—is already shaping how he sees God.

And that’s what traditions do.

🟣 Family traditions will shape our kids — the question is, how?

Let’s be real: not all traditions are intentional.

Some we inherited without thinking. Others just sort of… happened.

But whether we choose them or not, traditions teach our kids what matters to us.

They teach:
→ What we prioritize
→ What we make time for
→ What we keep coming back to — even when life is busy

When we slow down and ask, “What are we actually passing on here?” — something shifts.

🟣 A biblically rooted tradition is more than a memory

In the Old Testament, God didn’t just suggest feasts and festivals as something fun to do.

He commanded them as a way to remember.

“You shall remember that you were a slave in Egypt. And you shall be careful to observe these statutes.”
— Deuteronomy 16:12 (ESV)
In other words, God knew we needed regular rhythms to help us remember what He’s done.

Traditions that are truly biblical don’t just feel good or look spiritual — they anchor us in truth.

🟣 Ideas for Traditions That Keep the Word at the Center

Here are a few simple rhythms that can help your family build habits of remembrance:

1. “Verse of the Month” at the Dinner Table

Pick one Scripture to memorize and talk about all month.
Let it shape your dinner convos, quiz each other, and reflect on how you see it in real life.

2. Speak a Blessing on Birthdays

More than cake and gifts—make birthdays a moment of spoken truth.
Pray over each child or spouse. Speak a Scripture aloud. Write it in a card they can keep.

3. “Scripture Sunday” Reset

One mom shared that every Sunday after lunch, her family reads a Psalm together.
It’s short, simple, and has become their weekly “spiritual reset.”

4. Holiday Anchors

Instead of just decor or gifts, use holidays as built-in discipleship moments:
  • Easter → Read the resurrection account
  • Thanksgiving → Share a verse of gratitude
  • Christmas → Trace Jesus’ lineage and fulfilled prophecies

5. Sabbath Start or Sunday Slowdown

Light a candle. Read one verse. Pause before the week begins.

Let your kids see you set the tone with God’s Word—even if it’s only 5 minutes.

None of this needs to be big or complicated.

They just need to be repeatable — and rooted in truth.

🟣 You’re not just creating memories. You’re planting anchors.

Even if it seems like your kids aren’t paying attention...

Even if they groan or wiggle or seem “over it”...

These rhythms are doing deep, quiet work.

You’re showing them that:
→ God’s Word matters
→ His truth belongs in our everyday life
→ He’s worth remembering

And one day, when life gets shaky, they’ll know where to turn.

🟣 Scripture to Build Traditions On

These are beautiful reminders of why this matters:

Psalm 145:4
“One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”
Proverbs 22:6
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Psalm 78:6–7
“…that the next generation might know them… so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God…”

🟣 Final Thought: Traditions don’t need to be perfect. Just intentional.

You don’t need to do what another family does.

You don’t need a binder or a Bible curriculum or a perfect Sunday rhythm.

But you do need to ask:
What are we already doing — and how can we invite Scripture into it?
That’s where legacy starts.

That’s how we build a home our kids want to come back to—because it’s rooted in truth.

✨ Ready to start?

Download my free guide:
“30 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Home” — perfect for everyday rhythms, special moments, and everything in between.

Let’s plant seeds that will grow fruit for generations.

How To Make Scripture Part of Your Daily Routine With Kids - Without A Curriculum

How To Make Scripture Part of Your Daily Routine With Kids - Without A Curriculum
If you've ever felt guilty for not doing a full-blown family devotional every day... take the pressure off, sweet friend. 

You don’t need an hour-long study or a Influencer's routine to bring the Word into your home. You just need intention.

Scripture is meant to be part of your everyday — not just your Sunday. It should be a natural outpouring of your own time with the Lord.

Let’s talk about how to make that happen, especially with little ones around.

🟣 God’s Word Is for Real Life — Not Just Quiet Time

Deuteronomy 6 gives us a picture of how Scripture is meant to shape daily life:
“You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
— Deuteronomy 6:7 (ESV)
In other words... when you're eating breakfast, driving to practice, wiping counters, tucking kids in — THAT’S the space where Scripture belongs.

It doesn’t need to be formal. It needs to be present.

And here's a hint - if you only read devotionals, or a single "verse-of-the-day", it won't naturally occur to you to talk about God's Word at all those times. 

You have to fill yourself with Scripture first before you can pour it out to your family and others.

🟣 6 Simple Ways to Bring Scripture Into Your Daily Routines

If you're like me and you love actionable, structured ideas, here are some you can try this week — no prep, no curriculum required.

1. Verse of the Week on the Fridge or Bathroom Mirror
Pick one short verse that your family can see often. Use dry-erase marker, Post-It notes, or a chalkboard. The key is visibility = familiarity.
➡️ Try Philippians 2:14 — “Do all things without grumbling or disputing.” 
(Actually...this is a fun one to help them memorize, because we'd all love a little less whining, right? 😉)

2. Speak Scripture While You Correct or Redirect
Instead of just saying “be nice,” try saying:
“God’s Word says to be kind to one another” (Ephesians 4:32).
You’re not using the Bible as a hammer — you’re simply anchoring your correction in truth.

3. Play Scripture Songs During Chores or Playtime
Music helps truth stick. A mom once told me her toddlers could quote more Scripture from worship music than anything else. And yes — it counts.
➡️ Check out Seeds Family Worship or Slugs & Bugs for sound theology in song.

4. Tie Verses to Routines
  • Brushing teeth? Recite Proverbs 15:1.
  • Before meals? Read a Psalm of thanksgiving.
  • At bedtime? Whisper Psalm 4:8 or Psalm 23:1-2.
The goal isn’t performance. It’s presence.

5. Ask Simple, Curious Questions
  • “What do you think God means when He says ‘love one another’?”
  • “Why do you think Jesus told that story?”
These moments spark conversations that plant seeds of faith.

6. Read the Bible Out Loud While They Play
Even if they’re playing with LEGOs or dolls, read anyway.

Isaiah 55:11 reminds us:
“So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty…” (ESV)
Don’t wait for perfect stillness. Just read.

Alternatively, you could also put on an app that reads the Bible out loud (I'm one of those people that doesn't particularly enjoying reading aloud, so I understand if you don't either!).

🟣 A Gentle Word for Moms Who Feel Insecure

You don’t need to be a Bible expert. You don’t need seminary-level answers. And you’re not failing if your kids roll their eyes or get wiggly during prayer.

Your consistency matters more than your polish.

Your tone matters more than your volume.

Your willingness to look for answers (rather than pretending to know everything) teaches your children how to be better and more humble students.

And your love for God’s Word? It speaks louder than a thousand rules or reminders.

🟣 Scriptures to Hold Onto as You Lead Faithfully

Here are a few Scriptures that remind us why we do this — even when no one seems to notice:
  • Isaiah 40:11
“He will tend his flock like a shepherd… he will gently lead those that are with young.”
God is gentle with mothers. You can be gentle with yourself, too.
  • Psalm 78:4
“We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord…”
  • 2 Timothy 3:15
“…and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation…”
These verses are your reminder: you’re sowing eternity into your child’s everyday life.

🟣 Final Thought:

God’s Word doesn’t need to compete with your daily routines. It was meant to live inside them.

So whether your kids are toddlers, teens, or somewhere in between—start now. Say the verse. Play the music. Ask the question. Let your home be filled with truth that sticks long after your kids leave the house.

And if you haven’t already grabbed it — be sure to check out this month’s free download:
30 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Home
📩 Grab it here!

How to Apply What You Study (So It Actually Changes You)

How to Apply What You Study (So It Actually Changes You)
We've been talking all month about different Bible study tools, how to study, how to make it less overwhelming and more "do-able". 

But simply studying isn't enough. If we want to be transformed by Scripture, we need to apply what we learn. 

That being said, let’s end this month by talking about the “so what” of Bible study—application.

You can read Scripture all day long, use every method under the sun, and fill notebooks with notes—but if you don’t apply what you study, it’s like looking in a mirror and forgetting what you saw (James 1:22-25).

As wives and moms, this matters so much. God didn’t give us His Word just for head knowledge—He gave it to us so we could live it out in our marriage, in how we talk to our kids, in how we serve and speak and forgive.

Here are three simple ways to apply Scripture every week:

Pick One Small Step:

After studying, ask: “Based on this passage, what one thing can I change today?” 

Whether it’s holding your tongue in an argument or getting up five minutes earlier to pray, small obedience matters.

Write it in your notes, and think about what exactly you need to hold yourself accountable to the Lord for obeying. That was a tip I was given by one of my BibleArc coaches, and I thought it was super helpful.

Speak it Out Loud:

Tell your husband or a friend what you learned. Sharing helps you remember, and it invites accountability.

This also works when you post about it on social media. Tell the world what you've learned, and maybe you'll teach someone else, too!

Write a Sticky Note Reminder:

Seriously. I’ve had verses stuck to my bathroom mirror, laundry room wall, and even the dash of my car. 

You could also use Canva to make a new phone wallpaper or lock screen with your verse!

The goal is to keep the truth in front of your face so it sinks into your heart.

Remember, if you need a little help, check out the FREE Bible Study Toolkit I created to help guide you.


Don’t just study to say you did—study to become more like Christ. 

Study to be the wife your husband needs, the mom your kids admire and called blessed, and the woman God created you to be.

You’ve got this, friend. And I’m right here with you.

Which Bible Study Method Is Right For YOU? A Simple Breakdown.

Which Bible Study Method Is Right For YOU? A Simple Breakdown.
I used to feel so overwhelmed by all the Bible study methods out there. 

SOAP, inductive, verse mapping, color-coding, commentary deep-dives… whew

As a busy wife and mom, I just needed something that worked and made sense.

The truth is—there’s no “one size fits all” method. But there is a best method for you, in this season.

Let’s break down a few simple ones:

SOAP (Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer):
This one’s my favorite for busy mornings. You write the verse out or simply summarize it, observe what it’s saying, journal out applications you feel called to make personally, and respond in prayer. It’s simple but deep.

SPECK (Sin to avoid, Promise to claim, Example to follow, Command to obey, Knowledge about God):
This one is more of an overall observation method to help you pull out wisdom you could potentially miss. This is great when you need a little guidance finding application straight from the text—especially if you struggle to see how the Bible connects to your daily life.

Verse Mapping:
If you like digging into the original language and comparing translations, this one’s for you. There is so much more depth when you realize why an author was using a specific word, or learn what other meaning is behind the word they used. It’s a little more detailed, but super rich if you want to grow in understanding.

Bible Digest Method (a.k.a. Homiletics):
This one’s amazing for bigger passages or teaching others. For clarification, let me state that I believe Scripture prohibits women from preaching to men or having authority over them, so this method is not for the purpose of preparing a typical sermon. However, Titus 2 does command older women to teach the younger and this method could be used to help you better understand what you are going to teach younger women (or children). You summarize the main idea, find key points, and think about how to apply and share it.

I always tell women this: the best Bible study method is the one that helps you actually understand and apply what you read. 

It’s not about doing what’s trending—it’s about doing what helps you connect with the Word.

This week, try a new method! I created a little freebie Bible Study Tool Kit (with SOAP and SPECK templates) to help you experiment and find your favorite.




 
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