Sweet sister, have you ever thought about how much God’s love shapes your marriage?
I'm sure you've had thoughts about God bringing the right man to you to marry, maybe you've thanked Him for leading you to your husband, or maybe you've wondered if you actually did marry the right man.
But have you thought about how His love - His godly, enduring, long-suffering, faithful, selfless, servant-hearted love - daily affects your marriage?
God's love is the cornerstone, the glue, and the safety net all rolled into one.
Without His love, we’re left striving and falling short.
But when God’s love is your foundation - meaning it's the motivating factor behind every action and response you have towards your husband - everything changes.
God’s love is unconditional—it doesn’t depend on how well you “perform” as a wife. And that same unconditional love is what should spur you on to extend grace when your husband messes up, forgets something, hurts your feelings, disappoints you, or when you're in the middle of a heated argument.
It’s a love that chooses (intentionally, meaning you do have control over your ability to do this) forgiveness over bitterness and encouragement over criticism.
One of my favorite verses is 1 John 4:19:
We love because He first loved us.
As Christians, one of our goals is to become more Christlike each and every day.
Knowing that Christ loved you first, and you want to be more like Him, you should also desire to "go first" in your marriage - apologize first, respect first, organize date nights first, extend the olive branch first.
When you’re feeling worn out or unappreciated, let this truth sink in: God’s love isn’t only for you to receive; it’s for you to reflect. As Proverbs 11:25 reminds us:
One who waters will himself be watered.
When you water your marriage, you will be watered. When you reflect God's love to your husband, it creates a safe space for growth, healing, and joy.
This week, take time to rest in God’s love for you.
Meditate on Scripture, journal your thoughts, and ask the Lord to open your eyes to His love for you.
Then, look for opportunities to allow that love to overflow into your marriage—whether it’s a kind word, a forgiving heart, or a simple hug.
Bonus points for finding ways to specifically love your husband in his own love language.
Let’s anchor our marriages in God’s love and watch Him do amazing things through us.
Buckle up, buttercup; this topic may get a little bumpy.
Let me first say that if just the title of this post gets your blood boiling, there is clearly some unlearning and biblical learning that needs to happen. I have been there; I get it.
With that note out of the way, let’s chat about something I’ve wrestled with (and I'm sure you have to, unless it's a topic you've been told to ignore): serving my husband.
In our current feminist society, serving your husband is something only weak, controlled, subservient "trad wives" do. The world will tell you that in marriage, you shouldn't have to serve your husband. You should be equals and make each other happy and show mutual respect (some of which is true).
Scripturally, we're called to serve one another as a body of believers:
Galatians 5:13
For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.
Ephesians 6:7-8
Rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man, knowing that whatever good anyone does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether he is a slave or free.
Wives are called to submit to their husbands, which in and of itself is service to him. Being a "keeper at home" per Titus 2 is an act of service. When you apply those passages alongside the others that call believers to serve one another, it's obvious wives have a particular role in serving their husbands.
I don't know about you, but as a Christian, my goal is to understand Scripture so that I can apply and OBEY it. Obedience to God is EVERYTHING.
Simply knowing what the Bible says doesn't do us any good if we don't seek to live it out (even the demons acknowledge Jesus; the difference is they don't obey Him).
And so, the quest began to serve my husband out of obedience to Christ.
For a long time, “serving” felt like a chore, something I had to do because I was the wife.
But when I began to understand that serving him was a way to honor God and pour love into my marriage, my perspective shifted.
Serving your husband doesn’t have to mean elaborate meals or Pinterest-worthy gestures (unless that’s your thing - it's definitely not mine).
It can be as simple as asking how you can pray for him or surprising him with his favorite snack (Aldi has great random snack finds!).
The key is doing it with joy, not resentment or obligation.
- When you serve joyfully, it’s like planting seeds of love that will grow over time.
- When you serve joyfully, God is honored and glorified.
- When you serve joyfully, YOU will be more joyful.
- When you serve joyfully, your husband feels more loved and respected.
- When you serve joyfully, you set a biblical example for your children, your friends, and all of those in your circle of influence.
This month, why not make it fun?
Think of creative ways to bless your husband.
- Write him a note each day leading up to Valentine’s, telling him one thing you appreciate about him.
- Plan a date night that focuses on something he loves, even if it’s not your favorite (Top Golf?).
- Take on one of his chores for the day as an act of kindness.
- Rub his shoulders or back, or his legs if he holds tension there.
- Fill a jar with Hershey's hugs and kisses and give him a real one each time he takes out a candy.
- Send him a "meat bouquet" or a "jerky heart".
Remember, serving isn’t about getting something in return. It’s about showing Christ’s love in a tangible way.
And when you do it joyfully, your heart softens, your connection deepens, and your marriage gets a little sweeter.
So grab your planner or a sticky note and jot down some simple ideas to serve your husband today. Little things add up to big love.
Share your ideas in the comments, too! Let's inspire and encourage our sisters in Christ today!
Sweet friend, can we chat about something life-changing for a minute?
It’s no secret that marriage has its ups and downs. But what if I told you that the biggest game-changer for your marriage might not be a new communication strategy or more date nights (though those are great), but something far simpler: time with God.
When you make Bible study a daily, life-giving habit, something incredible happens.
God’s Word begins to shape your heart, soften your rough edges, and give you wisdom and patience you didn’t know you needed.
You become more rooted in His love, which empowers you to love your husband in a deeper, selfless way.
Your eyes are opened to the truth of God's design for marriage. As you live out the role He's placed you in as a wife, you begin to experience the blessings that result from obedience to His design.
And when you approach our marriage from a place of spiritual fullness, it shows. You’re slower to anger, quicker to forgive, and more thoughtful in how you love, serve, and respect your husband.
It’s not that Bible study magically fixes everything, but it changes you.
As you study, learn, and apply God's truths to your life, the Holy Spirit fills you up so that you can pour out love, grace, and understanding in your marriage.
Scripture gives you the tools to respond with kindness when your fleshly reaction might have been frustration.
It offers you a new perspective, allowing you to see your husband through the lens of God’s love and grace.
The most beautiful thing is that the closer you grow to God, the more your marriage can thrive.
When you spend time in God’s presence, your heart becomes more aligned with His will.
You develop a deeper sense of humility, compassion, and a genuine desire to serve your husband—not because you have to, but because God’s love overflows from within you.
If you’re longing to experience this kind of transformation, in your heart AND in your marriage, I encourage you to start by downloading my free Quieting Your Mind Guide.
It’s packed with simple steps to quiet the noise of life and hear from God, so you can start building a quiet time routine that blesses both your faith and your marriage.
Let’s invite God to do a beautiful work in our hearts that will ripple into our marriages and homes!
When you're in a difficult season, it's so easy to feel defeated.
- When your child is a prodigal.
- When your marriage is falling apart.
- When your doctor gives you a terrible diagnosis.
- When a loved one dies.
- When you lose a home, a job, or a friendship.
- When finances are tight, or non-existent.
It can be SO easy to think to yourself, "If only this would change, I could be happy. If only..."
What does God have to say about things like this?
First, we are to weep with others when they weep. When you find yourself in a season of weeping, you allow yourself to weep and work through those emotions, and you surround yourself with people who, like Job's friends, will just sit in the weeping with you.
Second, you lean into God as your source of comfort, of relief, and of your JOY.
Scripture tells us in Romans 18:18:
For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us."
It's important to remember that nothing happening to us on earth can compare to the beauty and indescribable joy awaiting us in eternity.
When we get there, nothing here will matter anymore. All that will matter is being in the presence of Jesus.
Yes, it's painful to think about your child rejecting God and missing out on this glory. It's painful to walk through a divorce, or scary medical diagnosis, or a betrayal.
But when you feel as though you need your child's salvation, or your marriage to be a godly marriage, or you need to have all of your bills paid, in order to feel joy, then you have elevated those things ABOVE Jesus.
When you seek something other than Jesus for your joy, you've made that thing an idol.
Christ is sufficient for us.
2 Corinthians 5:8 tells us
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work."
We have all sufficiency, in ALL things, at ALL times. And the reason for this is so that we can abound in every good work.
It's difficult to do good works when we're anxious, depressed, waiting on something else to bring us joy, isn't it?
Sweet friend, you don't have to wait to do good. You don't have to wait to find JOY.
Psalm 16:11
You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
James 1:2-4
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
Proverbs 10:28
The hope of the righteous brings joy, but the expectation of the wicked will perish.
When we place our focus on Christ, and recognize His sufficiency and ability to BE our complete joy, we will have that joy in abundance - even when we aren't getting the earthly things we want or think we need.
Can you believe this today?
Can you believe Christ alone is sufficiently able to bring you all joy and peace, regardless of your earthly circumstances?
Comment below and let me know how I can pray over you today.
If you're like me, when you first met your husband and while you were dating, you spent an embarrassing amount of time choosing outfits, putting on make-up, figuring out your hair, and making sure you looked your absolute best when you saw him.
Then we got married, and after a while living in the same home where you have every right to feel comfortable, you may have cared less and less whether you were intentionally pleasing him or not.
Some wives make drastic changes to their hair either by cutting it or dying it, without first asking their husband's opinion.
Some wives go shopping for clothes and never think to ask their husband which items they like before they purchase.
I've heard many wives joke about how they don't even bother to shave their legs anymore, because they're married so they shouldn't have to.
After months or years of marriage, while our husbands remain faithful to us - the only women they are truly "allowed" to look at and lust over - we tend to punish their faithfulness by disregarding their opinions about our appearance.
Some women get upset because their husbands don't compliment them anymore or tell them how beautiful they are - but have they stopped to consider whether they are intentional about catering to their husbands preferences?
Here's my encouragement to you today, sweet friend.
Before you change your hair, or buy that new outfit, ask what your husband thinks.
If he doesn't want you to cut your hair, then don't. If he doesn't like a certain outfit, don't buy it.
Relax at home, but make sure to take care of yourself daily with proper hygiene, shower early in the day, get dressed, shave regularly.
Not out of obligation to do what he wants, but out of a desire to please him, to make yourself attractive to him, to show him that his opinion matters to you because HE matters to you.
Wouldn't you appreciate the same treatment from him?
Let's be wives who honor their husbands and seek to please them in all things, including our appearance.
Have you recently asked your husband's opinion about something related to your appearance? I'd love to hear about how you're honoring him that way - share in the comments!
